Sex Addiction Counseling Services

Sex Addiction Counseling: Our Process

“Recovery is such an amazing place - full of the joys of experiencing life for the very first time. [My wife] and I continue to discover new depths of relationship and I am relaxing into the promises of recovery. … I continue to be surprised at how well the program works when I really applies it to my life.” - Ken A

You can recover from Sex Addiction.

Today, more and more people (like you?) are taking a serious look at how they use sex and deciding that what they’re doing doesn’t work. The sex they use doesn’t make them feel better. Using sex to “fix” only makes them feel worse.

Today, it’s not okay to keep secrets and hide. The shame is eats them up from the inside and they slowly fall apart. They can’t keep doing what they’re doing or they’ll keep getting what they’re getting, and they know it

There’s no avoiding it anymore. They (maybe you?) need help.

And so they make the decision to get and stay sexually sober. They take this decision seriously, and they know they can’t do it on their own. They’ve tried, but it wasn’t enough.

No matter how bright and motivated, no matter how strong their will, these men and women fail to get stopped and stay stopped. They are addicted to sex and they are out of control. And perhaps like you, they need help.

They aren’t willing to accept the sex addict’s life of secret shame. They’ve stopped, and they plan to stay stopped. They know that all the need to do is keep doing the things that got them sober this far. Just keep using the tools, making the phone calls, hitting the meetings, and working the steps and being responsible for their thoughts, behaviors, and actions.

We’ll lay out the plan for you. You just do it. Make a decision for sobriety and then just follow directions. It really isn’t complicated. Here are the basics of our recovery process:

At Sonoran Counseling Services, we don’t claim a monopoly on this solution. Many have come before us and pioneered the understanding we have today of sex addiction recovery.

Sex addiction help: For the Sex Addict

Crisis phase of recovery

  • Decided to get stopped and stay stopped - for good
  • Individual counseling/Group counseling
  • Make the environment support sexual sobriety
  • “S” meetings/Sponsor/12-steps

Establish sexual sobriety

  • Be accountable and build a community
  • Abstinence, sexual sobriety, and healthy sexuality
  • 12-step group attendance
  • Explore core issues: Trauma/Abuse/Neglect

 

Sex addiction help: For the Partner

Infidelity induced trauma

  • Safety and support
  • Boundaries - physical/sexual/emotional
  • Trauma and infidelity
  • Trauma healing plan

Healing phase

  • Emotional support: anger, fear, pain, and shame
  • Discovery trauma: secrets and disclosure
  • Relation decisions: Trust vs. Risk
  • Healing intimacy: Self and the recovering sex addict

 

Sex addiction help: For couples

Sex addict process (couple recovery)

  • Make amends and change behavior
  • Empathy building/Healthy shame
  • Accountability/Disclosure
  • Intimacy building/Communications

Partner process (couple recovery)

  • Healthy boundaries/Saftey
  • Confronting behavior/Questions
  • Hear disclosure*
  • Intimacy building/Communications